I post this blog e-ssay, now, without having gone over it once more, without seeing if it has other points not included, to be included, because the blog post below this one, was 'controversial' to say the least, going to far more personal aspects of 'pretendly frenemies', etc., and the connection was under serious fire when I went online to upload it minutes ago.
I hope this'n is complete enough to put across my points about 'pretendly frenemies', in a mad world?
Pretendly Frenemies - Debunking 'Friendship'
“Your mind
is really a bag of cut snakes”.
Since
a longtime ago, man has become as-they-say, “more refined”, and
for increased local, tribal security, over generations, we've taken
paths into developing stuff like 'the arts' and 'fashion' in
clothing, architecture and other areas of domestic, social,
commercial legal and governmental affairs.
The
effect of these 'growths' in our characters, and customs, etc, tends
often to have the raw, honest, basic being we are, becoming over
gentrified, which, to me, is not as healthy nor 'uplifting' of the
basic character of the beast, as the 'refined' might prefer to
believe.
This
is where the word 'spoiled' is correctly applied.
Appreciation
of those magnificent 'inventions', flights of the imagination, as-in
the arts, etc, music, performance, dance can't be criticized if they
make us more appreciative of other cultures. And, if they give us
some deeper understanding of our own infinite mind and it's
imagination, thus the world around us, which, I saw once, all comes
from within us anyway.
Being
able to listen in some sort of rapture at a Mozart violin piece, or
from any western or eastern, or any, 'classical' composer, or
listening so one 'becomes the music' of say, a heavy rock
song, has been experienced by me, and when I rarely hear a classical
or classic 'old favorite rock song, those feelings and sensations
re-surgitate fast.
Sadly,
the memories of why I don't have the stereo music system to listen to
in a nice comfy loungeroom and armchair rush in as well and spoil it.
The
radio is usually switched off at that point.
But,
to our species try to refine us, gaining the refinements, be-they an
appreciation of good music, good food, wine, furniture, buildings,
etc, is firstly an attempt to have us lose the more raw, and usually
more honest aspects and traits of 'the beast' Homo Sapiens.
I
guess this brings up questions of whether having all the
accouterments of re-finery, makes us 1, more intelligent, 2, more
tolerant - itself questionable - should we try to be more tolerant,
or contrary to 'tolerance' more knowledgeable of that we might regard
as 'intolerable', so more understanding, 3, better able to deal with
life, circumstances, events, challenge and change?
ET
cetera?
Or,
do the common western 'refinements', the 'gentrifying accouterments'
assist in having us survive?
And,
do all the tries and successes by all modern cultures and cultural
and social influences, to lift the brutal, coarse, 'gravely'
character, out of some perceived 'primitive' range of behavior, in
fact make us less tolerant, less intelligent, less informed or
capable of consideration and acceptance of 'the other', whether
cultural, skin-color, language, fashion, trend, or belief, etc?
Does
'cultural refinement' make us less honest, and less able to cope with
foreign or unknown entities and situations?
On
a cultural level, above specific examples, across whole cult,
religious and national 'persuasions and trends' I'd say “Yes, it
does!”
Having
to face my own errant 'generalization' in points I make, there are
always the exceptions.
These
too, are as oft' seen in whole subsets of a culture, or nation, down
to how a school, church or public, or more secular club, encourages
and instructs attendees in these types of affairs and interests.
Trying
to express, find or produce any one or small number of 'standards'
for any level or type of society to agree on and to follow is
pointless, and probably negative overall?
The
Arts are of value, and not just for 'Sotherby's', and not merely for
the ego of spoiled brats to spend their idle-hands hours dabbling in.
There
is a value for people to enjoy the world, whether that's at a
rock-n-roll dance, groovin' to the muse [sorry, I'm 50-fuckin'-9!],
or at a classical ballet or Beethoven concert orchestra, Et Al.
Being
able to 'get-off' on paintings all in one big place, or city, for the
story or visual thrill they tell and/or give, cannot be denied us.
But
having the background to learn to appreciate any of the arts, is
quite another thing.
It's
possible a Mountain Warrior from Papua New Guinea or from the forests
of Brazil would appreciate some fine art of a 17th, 18th, 19th
century western artist more than someone from the lower classes of a
western nation?
However...,
'Pretendly Frenemies' are people who are not of their own true
character, who have a cynical view of life in general, and who,
possibly in fact are more honest, to themselves about 'life' and how
one survives and gets the enjoyment a seriously warped world denies
them, than the culture around them lets them be.
One
lesson we do and should learn in the 'modern' world, is that people
are in general, 'specious', false, and cannot be trusted, cannot be
honest, in day-to-day affairs. Especially with 'strangers'.
This
is a cultural reality, more than a natural trait.
While
the culture, the belief's system, the society, it's laws and customs
are false, weak, shallow, and in-the-end serve the darker side of our
natures, the people in and across it, have few options but to be the
same.
In
the long run, this has a very destructive effect on everything and on
everyone.
Being
met by anyone with a smile and a 'pleasant chat', or with
nicely-worded comments and offerings, do not make them genuinely,
honestly 'good' people.
“Beware
of strangers bearing gifts!” is a wise warning.
Yet,
in our conditioned 'shallowness' of our own character, many of us
leave such an engagement, thinking 'they were nice!' or 'I can trust
them'. Etc.
The
raw truth is that, often enough, in any other situation, that same
'nice' person, can be a coarse, brutal, even vicious person, quite
ready and able to do serious arm to anyone they deem as not
'nice', as not fitting within their parameters of what it is
to be accepted.
And,
as often, once we are out of earshot, we are as likely the target of
their derision, or mockery.
As
often, in any financial transaction, the other party is considering
whether they got the better of us, exactly as we are thinking. And,
always there's thoughts about making sure they get the better deal
next time. But, all the while, it's 'friendly-friendly-friendly',
when people are face-to-face.'
Come
down to it, most 'friendly' situations we encounter and engage in,
are so, purely because we, and the other, want something out of the
engagement, and do not give a shit about the other, so long as they
are 'nice' to us while we must engage.
Even
in supposedly intimate relationships, in marriages, in partnerships,
social, or commercial, there is a superficiality underlying them,
where, we associate so we, the person, can get something we deem as
beneficial to us, from the partner.
Yet,
I put it, and assume, having never had a relationship where this was
not existent, that many of us blindly believe that someone we get
close to, likes us for anything more than for what they can derive
from in return, by being 'nice' to us.
How
often, when 'put to the test' do friendships fall apart?
That
person who was, while there was an unspoken mutual gain out of the
association, 'nice', friendly' trustworthy, etc, drops you like a hot
brick, when you show preferences for something that is in opposition
to their way of gaining in life.
When
someone we can 'think', that-is, are either lulled into believing, or
prefer, out of our own wants and needs and desires, generally for our
own personal weakness of character, of being unable to stand alone in
life and still be content and happy, or at a minimum, satiated with
our own company and abilities, turns out to be offensive to us. How
often are they, if only in our own thoughts, and circles, an enemy?
Yet, how often if we meet again, are we, 'friendly' to them?
This
is a two-way street. We have the same underlying 'talents' of being
false to the degree where others accept us, as any others do.
So
begging the question of what 'friendship' is, and whether 'friends'
are in fact, our enemies?
Pretendly
Frenemies?
Or,
do either really exist? Is there really such a thing as a 'friend'
and, an 'enemy'?
Returning
to the opening paragraphs, I put it that we become false, and
dishonest, less human and less trustworthy, when we assume into our
character, into our beliefs systems, and ways of associating, refined
and 'gentrified' customs and cultural norms.
This
is exemplified when someone from a spoiled class, turns up their nose
to the musings or coarse expressions of a lower class person.
“Oh!
They were so - honest!”
Howvaar,
darlinksss!?
These
negative attributes cross cultures too.
And,
those worst essentially arrogant habits are generated by the most
evil of all 'cultural' developments - 'class' itself.
And
class is but one of the, perhaps the most unwanted, untrue and thence
unnecessary developments any nation can want.
It
is certainly one of the most detrimental elements of the species.
It
is to be sure, part of an 'evolutionary' aspect, an evolutionary
'growth' in the hominid, mainly so some of us can concentrate on
elements of improvement to 'life' as we know, need, and want to enjoy
it.
Howvaar,
as usual with the lost tribes, it quickly gets out of control and out
of order.
Before
long it becomes the most heinous element, and does nothing but cause,
promote and increase division across nations, tribes, suburbs and
families.
I
put it's roots down to the ancient growth of individuals having too
much wealth for themselves, for their immediate families, friends,
sycophants, pretendlies, cronies, servants and assistants. ET cetera.
But
it is promoted and caused mostly by errant religious indoctrination,
methinks.
And
[western] religion of modern times, is the infiltrating servant of
the landed elites.
These,
exist and have grown on centuries of bad laws.
In
essence, bad land laws, where dynasties growing too powerful from
past predecessor-warlords conquering too much land for themselves to
'reign over', and thereafter inventing, or having their inner circles
of advisers, aides and like minded chieftains inventing false laws to
maintain the order of them being the ones who profit most from the
labors of those soldiers and slaves who do the manual work of growing
foods, building fortresses, making tools, equipment, weapons, and the
refined accouterments the spoiled scum-on-top-of-the-pool reckon is
their right to have, to possess, and to exclusively enjoy.
It
is likely that a long time before this bad arrogant attitude of
disregard for all members of the tribes became the trend in the
castles and manor houses of the senior most members of a clan,
family, tribe and cult, that the rot began and set in.
But
all the 'refined' elements the now 'upper-classes' enjoy, have been
labored over by lower class employees. Ie., people who showed
talents, so were selected out of the throng and given privileged
space, foods, and time to focus on developing and inventing things
which impressed the elite.
Well
before any such division of roles and duties and privilege, when all
members had roles in keeping the tribe fed and clothed and housed and
such, things were purer, agrarian - when need was even, everyone had
the same basic needs.
Sycophancy
and speciousness, falsity and bullshit weren't around.
People
were Honest. There wasn't the evil of pretendliness, and thus, of
frenemies.
Today,
with the most evil unjust and inequitable land distribution laws the
earth could see, the dominant director of culture, pretendly
frenemies, has become the dominant trend.
We
ignore this, and continue on our really foolish pretendly ways, at
our peril.
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